Glad to hear that it turned out good for you claudia.
I remember a couple of dark years there myself during the seperation. The christmas tree was always the flash point for us, and NO tree could be bought until we ALL agreed on it..meaning it was the wife's pick..then came THE SET UP everything was done with heart valve operation care and a lot of yelling if you broke the concentration or did something wrong..are you kidding, something ALWAYS went wrong..the kids would go to bed in tears, and I would look at the butcher block knife set and WONDER if they would REALLY give me five to ten for killing her in cold blood.
So anyway, the first year out, (seperated, I never killed her, I have proof) the kids asked if I was buying a tree and I hollered;"NO!!" and they started to choke up..and right there I knew I had to pull out a save. Uncle Carl. HE had a pinata for his kids..right. Told them we would make a christmas tree pinata, and smash THAT...figured out how to do it, and a new tradition was born. They dug it, and I still do it..ULTIMATELY wound up buying an artificial and giving it to the kid when she left, the one the cat would ride to the floor every year..
Baby Brother was bettter. No anger. It was the LIGHTS for him. The year his wife left, the boys came in and asked when the LIGHTS were going up. He smiled and said;"The ladder and the lights are in the garage. Good luck."
By the way, Patty and Selma were not at your house because they were at one of my in-laws..seriously..the hair, THE DRESSES,smoked enough to be pollution hazards.But it was Elvis. And for what ever reason, one would yell out in that smoke damaged voice:"Pass the gravey, kindergarden baby!" At no one in particular during the meal. I never knew what that meant. No one else did either, and no one could explain it to me.
ah, it was all good. People going through emotional or spiritual or personal crisis and who were in pain were a SNAP after that, no matter HOW incoherent they got.
Holy friggen' feces.
Run run Rudolph, Santa's got to make it on time..